What is hijab? Why do Muslim women wear hijab? Does wearing
the hijab make you a better Muslim than someone who doesn’t? These are just
some commonly asked questions which some hijabi women are faced with and I hope
to address these questions by interlinking them with my own experience of
wearing the hijab.
The hijab is something that has always interested me. I was
incredibly curious as a child, and as a little girl there were many things that
I was looking forward to when I became older. Some were fairly typical things
like going shopping on your own etc, but wearing the hijab was actually one of
them. I was always fascinated by it, so at the age of ten, I started wearing
the hijab full-time. I say full-time because at six years old, I started
wearing it, but it really was on-and-off. Other girls in my class were staring
to wear it so I decided that I should wear it too. I started attending weekend
classes at the mosque and covering the hair was a requirement. This was
entirely my own choice. My parents neither told me, nor advised me to wear the
hijab at this point. I wasn’t really committed as I felt that I was a bit too
young to undertake such a task. But when I started wearing the hijab properly
(and my mum continually advising me to keep to it), I started secondary school
and that’s when the doubts started to show up.
Being curious gives an obvious indication that you’re
constantly searching for answers. I didn’t really know why Muslim women had to cover their heads. I just started wearing it blindly because
really wanted to know how it felt like, not necessarily for what it was about
or represented. I remember asking my mum why the hijab was necessary, and her
response was “because you’re Muslim, you
need too.” This answer, for me, was inadequate. It didn’t explain anything
to me. I knew that Muslim women had to wear it, but what is the purpose? Why
has God made it obligatory upon women to cover their heads? This crucial
question was finally answered four years later.
I won’t delve into great detail why the hijab is worn
otherwise this post will be really long, but the central issue which hijab
revolves around is modesty. The word ‘hijab’ originates from the Arabic word
‘hajaba’ meaning to cover; hence this explains the covering of the head to the
chest. God revealed this commandment in Surah An-Nur, verse 30, adding that
other parts should also be covered, therefore suggesting that there is much
more to hijab than just covering your head. This is where modesty comes to
play. It allows the sexuality of women to be concealed, away from the public
eye and femininity to be brought out. This point really resonated with me. By covering
myself with what seems a simple cloth, it carries huge symbolic meaning. I feel
liberated, secure, and ultimately, proud. I feel happy that I am representing
my religion and I’m pleased to be identified as a Muslim woman, and if
anything, it’s the complete contrary to the modern, ‘liberalist’ outlook of
what hijab is. Criticism permeates, and almost everywhere, you’ll hear the same
old recycled arguments of what hijab is: the fact that it’s oppressive,
misogynistic, and the fact women being forced to wear it without a choice. Well
actually, my experience completely defies this myth, as hijab to me is liberty,
equality but most importantly, humility. It’s my best friend. I don’t wear it
to impress men; I wear it to please my Lord. It completely conveys my identity as a woman.
I don’t think that I would be the same person if I wasn’t wearing it. The fact
that a simple garment can make you feel this way only heightens the symbolic
weight of the hijab. It doesn’t interfere with anything. I prefer to be judged
by what’s inside my head and not what’s on it.
Of course, over the years, it hasn’t all been plain sailing.
Living in the Western world has its hardships for any Muslim, and wearing the
hijab is indifferent. As I mentioned beforehand, I had some doubts wearing the
hijab at some point, but starting to understand its meaning really strengthened
my conviction to wear it. I also think that living in such a diverse city like
London made the matter a lot less daunting, some people are friendly and
completely open-minded which really does make you feel at home. It wasn’t a
huge deal as it is for some, or as emotional. However, you still get the dirty
looks. Thinking about it, that’s probably a London thing anyway.
Perhaps what I’d like to address the most is the issue of
passing judgement. As you may know, not all Muslim women wear the hijab and
this is entirely their own choice, just as someone who decides to wear it. Let
me tell you something, never ever judge or compare the two. Never do it. Just because a sister
wears the hijab and the other doesn’t automatically make you a better Muslim
and it is this very thought that has angered me so much. I’ve come across
people saying “I can’t take someone who
speaks about Islam who doesn’t wear the hijab seriously” or “you’re not a real Muslim if you don’t wear
the hijab”. Such remarks are both pretentious and absolutely vile. For all
you know that person may have a higher Iman than you and that she practices her
faith better than you. This isn’t providing an excuse by any stretch of the
word, all I am saying is that you shouldn’t judge any Muslim woman on the
premise of whether they wear the hijab or not or whether they’re dressed
modestly. That’s none of your business. There is a fine line between giving
someone advice and judging them, so if you care for the person so much, advise
them in private rather than exposing their faults in public. That isn’t doing
you any favours. Leave the judging between the woman and her Lord. Remember,
when someone is in hardship, you sincerely pray for them – not bash them. By
bashing, you are making them move further away, which isn’t your intention.
My advice to anyone thinking about wearing the hijab or has
starting wearing it is to refine your intentions. Know why you are deciding to
wear this. By refining your intentions, you’ll know whether you’ll be wearing
hijab for the right reasons. Secondly comes perseverance. This isn’t easy and
there is no doubt that you will encounter some difficulty along the way, but
take baby steps. This way, coming to terms with change will be a lot easier.
Thirdly, pray to God that He makes it easy for you. Ultimately, you are wearing
hijab to please God and no one else.
I pray to God that everyone’s efforts of wearing the hijab
are rewarded and to those considering, to make it easy for them. Ameen.
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